Family & Relationships How to have the 'perfect' first date, a la science

18:37  24 may  2018
18:37  24 may  2018 Source:   cosmopolitan.com

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This is what makes the perfect date, according to science . The set up. A scary amount of people (81%) lie about their age, height, or weight in their profiles, and that leads to some very awkward first dates .

Dating may not be an exact science , but that doesn’t mean we can’t use a little science to our advantage during that first interaction. Statistics help, but to really craft that perfect first date you need to know exactly how to handle yourself.

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First dates, ugh. Unless you are the luckiest human ever to walk this earth, you’ve probably had a bad date. Plus, when you meet someone online, it’s even harder to gauge how much you’ll enjoy it or even if you’ll hit it off at all. But luckily, science is on your side. Dating apps have done some major research into what works and what doesn’t on a first date. While it can’t save you from them talking with their mouth full, it might at least give you the best chance of it not being a total car crash. (Have a friend ready with an escape call though, just in case.)

Over to you, science...

The set up

A scary amount of people (81%) lie about their age, height, or other particulars in their profiles, and that leads to some very awkward first dates. Keep things honest and you'll avoid any uncomfortable surprises on the night.

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Here’s how to plan the perfect first date according to science . If it feels uncomfortable, you can leave after the first drink. Or better, you hit it off andyou have the freedom to continue your date for as long as you both like.

Like I said, not going too well. Well, fret not, because thanks to science , we now know exactly what the perfect first date is, so that we can go on them and be successful in our endeavors.

The outfit

First of all, wear what you want and most importantly, what makes you feel confident. If they don’t love you the way you are, they should probably go in the bin anyway. But if you’re feeling indecisive, studies have shown that black makes us feel confident on a first date, and that potential matches like it. While red may be associated with passion, it's also associated with arrogance. But don’t force yourself into a sleek, all-black outfit if you’re going to spend the entire night feeling like an emo mime. 

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The conversation

When it comes to dating convo, people are throwing out the rule book, thank god. While historically people have been told to veer away from the big topics like politics, a study from last year found that 80% of daters thought talking politics, religion, and even money was totally cool on a first date. Which makes sense, because you want to learn about the deal-breaker issues right away. 

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The bad topics? Only 14% of people want to talk exes on a first date and, sorry football fans, but less than 25% give an F about your sports passions. Stick to what really matters.

The manners

The phones have to go. I know, they can help you feel less nervous, but when your date is around they need to be gone. A survey from last year found that 75% of daters found answering your phone a turnoff, and more than half didn’t even want to see your phone face up on the table. (Honestly, seeing you pretend not to be glancing at your notifications is really annoying.) In fact, 45% of daters thought that keeping your phone off and away was a turn on. So, at the very least, save it for when your date is in the bathroom.

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The length

If a date’s going well, you might not want it to end - but a bad date can make you feel like time has stopped. Not sure how long it should last? Match's Singles in America survey found there's a sweet spot of around two and a half hours. If you get carried away talking, that's great, but don't be afraid to bow out while it's still going well. If you’re both still feeling frisky rather than fizzled, it’ll keep the goodbyes from being too awkward.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Dating, Seduction and Relationships. How to Have the Perfect First Date . To be perfectly honest, there is no such thing as a magic formula that can produce the perfect first date for you.

Dating may not be an exact science , but that doesn’t mean we can’t use a little science to our advantage during that first interaction. Statistics help, but to really craft that perfect first date you need to know exactly how to handle yourself.

Saying all that, if the date you’re on feels perfect for you, then you can totally ignore all of this and just go with your gut. But for a lot of us (including myself, hi!) first dates are nerve-wracking. And if you find them super difficult, it can be really helpful to have science on your side.

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How Long Should You Wait To Start Following A Date On Social Media? .
My girlfriend and I had been hooking up (but not technically dating) for about two months before I started following her on Twitter. I had read all of her tweets by then, of course, and was obsessively checking to see if she posted anything new. But I didn't dare follow her. Somehow, clicking the follow button or, even worse, friending her on Facebook, felt like it would give away how much I liked her. And that would be horrible. © Getty It sounds silly now (why shouldn't she know that I like her?), but I'm not the only one who falls prey to these kinds of social media anxieties.

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